DIFFERENT FATHERS TODAY

A friend of mine, Josephine* gave birth last week to a healthy baby boy.  She isn't married, her ex boyfriend, Richard*(the father of the child) doesn't want anything to do with her or the baby, her father has chased her away from home and now she has dropped out of college.  When she was about seven months pregnant she got a new boyfriend, Baraka* who accepted to live with her and the baby after birth.....to cut the long story short, she now lives with her current boyfriend, Baraka*.  But she is consistently worried that he might just decide to kick them out one day.

Now, Since it is fathers day, i want to draw attention to these three men/fathers.  First, Josephine's* father.  He has been her father for about 20 years, gone through all the fatherhood stress and joy but disowns her daughter for getting pregnant out of wedlock.

Secondly, Josephine's* ex(the father of the baby).  He has been in a relationship with her for two years.  Got her pregnant ( unplanned), admits that it is his baby but wants nothing to do with him because he is not ready to be a father.

Lastly, Baraka* her current boyfriend, he is now a father for another man's child.

So, i am confused about a couple of things, whether these fathers are right or wrong. Whether they can justify themselves...........here are my queries

• As a father in a community that upholds marriage and abominates pregnancy out of wedlock.  What would you do if your daughter found herself in such a situation? 
• What was Richard supposed to do? he wasn't prepared to be a father, yet his girlfriend is pregnant for him....
• Do you think Baraka is genuinely accepting the baby?Would you do that for a woman you love?
• Ladies, would you forgive your father and your ex when/if they came back later?

All names* are not their real names

"Dogs do not actually prefer bones to meat; it is just that one never gives them meat"

-Akan proverb

AWESOME CREATURES

As fathers day approaches(which i like to call men's day), i want to draw attention to our men.  Not all of them are fathers of coarse but i am pretty sure they have been a father figure to someone at some point, so they all at least deserve a happy men's day! So before the day comes, we should just remind ourselves of how precious they are...i agree, sometimes you want to punch them in the face, but again sometimes you want to give them the stars and the moon!!.  

We have talked and appreciated the African man's character before, so today we shall dwell on what we can see....the handsomeness, the cuteness, the sexiness...whatever you call it!, just to let them know that they don't have to use whitening creams, they don't have to do hair implants, they don't have to pierce every part of their body to look handsome or to impress us. So lets begin...........

The eyes...
You can all agree with me that these creatures have peculiar eyes. Shiny,piercing,dark.. Kind yet fierce, focused yet playful.  Their the eyes to make a woman say yes, but the same eyes scare away lions!  They are so mysterious you can't know what is going on inside...they rarely cry and rarely blink when watching football!!

The eyebrows
Well...most of us don't notice these.  They are normally forgotten when describing someone, but i think they are a distinct feature.  If someone ever tells that you have hair like an African man's eyebrows, give that person a hug! that is a huge compliment. i tell you these guys have the thickest, bushiest eyebrows ever!  It makes them look so sophisticated and dangerous and scary especially when they frown. so every time someone messes with you, tell them "hey,don't mess with me, my man has bushy eyebrows!" they will know what your are talking about and just run away!

see what i'm talking about?!

The smile
ooh! now what can i say about this.?! I think our men have the best smiles....i know mine has! Hasn't your day ever been brightened up by just your man's smile. They do wonders.  Some are so wide you can see all 30 teeth plus the gaps...some are not open at all...some can't differentiate between a smile and a laugh...but all in all, they are just amazing smiles! I just wish they could smile more often.

One last feature...I don't know why, but these guys go bald very early in life! THANK HEAVENS they don't look bad bald otherwise it would be a disaster.!

These are very few beautiful physical features that our gorgeous men posses. I am sure yours is different in their own way, but the point is to just appreciate them and make them aware that they are one of a kind.  We might think that only women have low self esteem and they are the only ones conscious about how they look, but this is creeping into men too.  Just the other day a man got a very bad infection from doing hair implants because he thought his wife doesn't find him handsome being bald!
So, as we celebrate our men next week, let them know that they are awesome looking creatures!