The Equality Concept

Many people have miss understood the equality concept, as a result of this misunderstanding we have women who want to be men and men who are useless and undermined.  Now, before you judge, hear me out first.
  In the last post we talked about divorce and pointed that one of the cause is loosing our cultural values.  Every culture is different and have different values and beliefs, so does ours.  I say Africa should accept change(it is inevitable), but to what extent should we accept these changes.  

The equality concept for instance, it was and still is a very strange concept in Africa.  Simply because in Africa people aren't equal!  That does not mean that one's right to live is better than the other, no.  It just means that people are categorized; children, elders, parents, chiefs, mothers, fathers etc, and all these are treated differently. I do agree that there were some practices that were directly suppressing and harming other people.  For instance, circumcising girls, beating up wives etc.

Now, the equality concept was brought to us with good intentions of eliminating these bad practices.  However, we have taken it in such a way that it has become war between men and women!!! Women are striving to overtake men and men are still puzzled at what is happening they even become useless!  In African culture, a man takes his role as a family provider very seriously, his manly responsibilities at home are also not forgotten. But today you will find a wife painting the house by herself and the man is watching football while waiting for lunch!! what kind of nonsense is that!  

Ever since we, women started earning degrees we see our husbands as good for nothing, we undermine them and call them useless.  We want to be the men of the houses and do everything. This is when bitterness creeps in marriages and divorce is warmly welcomed.  It has become chaos!  We have even forgotten how our system use to work.
We all, as a continent and individuals should critically think, analyse, understand and sieve every theory and concept introduced to us.  Is it necessary? does it contradict with my values? what is wrong with the current one? These are some of the many questions we should ask ourselves before we accept change.

Divorce before the first anniversary!

Statistics for divorce rate in the world is shocking, but the divorce rate in Africa is just frightening! Have you ever asked yourself why the divorce rate keeps on rising even in Africa?  Growing up, even the mention of the word 'divorce' was frowned upon.  The extended family, the clan and counsel of elders did whatever it took to restore harmony in a crumbling marriage.  Today however, it is so normal and even fashionable to file for divorce even before the first wedding anniversary!
We have so many dysfunctional  families, i even wonder how our children's generation will turn out to be.  We have young children moving from one home to another weekly.  One week in mum's house, the next in dad's; being abused by their father's or mother's new spouses! even worse, we have cases of siblings marrying each other because they don't even know that they are siblings.  In the best scenario, the children are handed over to their grand mothers in the village to take care of them.  It is a shame!
One of the biggest reason for all this is the act of loosing our culture and values.how?(we shall discuss that in the next post)
So, today our mother, Africa cries.  She moans, for her children are lost.  in a soft voice she calls and wants you to understand how important and sacred marriage is in your culture.  see how your grand parents managed to live in matrimony for a lifetime.  She calls for you to sit down, look back where you have fallen and pick yourself up.  She will be a proud mother when her children rank the lowest in divorce rate, and surely it is possible.
"The buttocks are like a married couple though there is constant friction between them; they will still love and live together''
-African proverbs

HONGERA TANZANIA!!....Congratulation Tanzania

On the 26 April 2014, Tanzania celebrated 50 years of unity between Tanganyika and Zanzibar.  It is a huge accomplishment.!

Mwl nyerere and Abeid Karume

This unique union was formed on the 26th April 1964 under the leadership of Mwalimu Julius K Nyerere and  Sheikh Abeid Karume.  On this day, The United republic of TANZANIA was born and got her first president; the late J.K Nyerere while Abeid Karume became the first vice president.

Mwl Nyerere mixing sand fron Tanganyika & Zanzibar as a sign of unity

For 50 years Tanzanians have leaved in peace and harmony, their motto being peace and love.  with more than 100 local tribes, her people are united by one language "swahili" which is spoken by every one.  With multiple political parties, she has managed to preserve peace.  with so much interaction from all over the world, she has kept her culture.
The union is alive, it is strong and it is keeping Tanzania going.

Tanzanian flag and map

Mungu ibariki Tanzania, muungano pamoja na watu wake.